I love sex. Because I love to connect with my partner through lovemaking. Lovemaking is exactly what the word describes, we actually have the opportunity to generate more love. We do this by joining in loving intimate union not by using each others energy to regulate our emotional imbalances. We can commune with each other by exchanging loving energy while we remain grounded in our own bodies without “losing” ourselves into one another. Lovemaking energy is ecstatic; meaning

The textbook human Sexual Response Cycle that was modeled by Masters and Johnson, back in 1966, has been the model conditioned into all of us as fact. It appears in everything in our culture from porn, public and private school curriculums, and medical sciences. Before Masters and Johnson perfected them, Kinsey made his mark by producing the first porn films showing first hand how the cycle worked. The generations following have taken this model as the gospel. We have been re

I met a woman the other day that told me that she had just filed for divorce. She went on to say that the cause was infidelity and that he had told her, since their parting, that he had slept with over thirty women. I told her that it was probably sex addiction because sleeping with that many women isn’t necessary to finding a partner, its obsessive. I told her that when men get addicted to pornography they eventually want what they see in porn, so after some time they event

In recent years, neuroscientists have found that skin to skin contact has many essential benefits for leading happy lives. So pertinent is it to our overall wellbeing that without it we can feel run down, depressed and disconnected in our body and in our relationship. Loving someone isn’t enough, we also need to know how to do that. I grew up believing that everything should just come naturally. That love was the one thing that we didn’t need to learn how to do because well…I

I’d like to start off by acknowledging the definition of ravished which comes from the Latin word rapere: to seize and carry off by force. to fill with strong emotion, especially joy. and to rape a woman. These definitions lead me to reason if the concept of ravishing came straight from the Archetype of Woman as Whore. Many believe this archetype has only existed since patriarchy began and probably played a huge role in the erection of it. That’s not to say that there were no

What I hear women saying and also what I have experienced in relationship with men is that the primary block to connection is rage. I’ve noticed that because boys are taught that feelings are for girls and to be a man you essentially can’t have feelings. They have suppressed these feelings to the extent that their personality begins to take on their rage as part of who they believe themselves to be. Congealed rage is also a term that accurately describes this suppression and

The verdict is in that they do just not the sort that has been on offer up to this point. Time and again women are feeling ‘if this is the way sex is going to be I don’t want anything to do with it.’ Since an alternative is relatively unknown women shut down to sex. This is the ongoing narrative for women all over the world today. Usually, when couples first partner up sex is exciting and stimulating. When we fall in love with one another we aren’t thinking about what our sex

It is of the utmost importance to assess if your partner has a sex addiction so that he can get the attention and care he needs before embarking on a journey of deepening your intimacy. If your partner has sex addiction and it isn’t addressed before starting to expand and deepen your intimacy then the road blocks you are going to encounter up ahead will likely be blamed on you and/or the intimacy. Without recovery first, the necessary trust and safety cannot be established to

There has been a lot of talk, among women, in recent years that their vagina is too loose especially after pregnancies. The general consensus is they’re displeased with their vagina’s performance. In other words, they feel that if their vagina returned to its “original” shape and firmness that this would enhance their sex life. They use a jade egg or another object to tone their vagina like a muscle. The goal is to regain strength in the muscle tissue that may have been lost

My ex-husband years ago, when we were married, told me “you’re like a centerfold” as if to say that I was “porn worthy.” To me, it seemed like he wanted me to know that he put me above women in porn. As if I was so beautiful that I was centerfold quality. As twisted as this sounded to me, I thought that he was attempting to flatter me. Or so he wanted me to believe. Many of these types of memories have been coming back to me. Did I really take that as a compliment? Was I cond