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And about sex also people are very, very worried. That very worry and that very effort to do something is the problem. Sex happens; it is not a thing that you have to do. So you have to learn the eastern attitude toward sex, the Tantra attitude. The Tantra attitude is that you be loving to a person. There is no need to plan, there is no need to rehearse in the mind. There is no need to do anything in particular: just be loving and available. Go on playing with each other's energy. And when you start making love, there is no need to make it great. Otherwise you will be pretending and so will the other person. He will pretend that he is a great lover and you will pretend that you are a great lover ... and both are unsatisfied! There is no need to pose anything. It is a very silent prayer. Making love is meditation. It is sacred, it is the holiest of holies. So while you are making love to a man go very slowly ... with taste, taking in every flavor of it. And very slowly: there is no hurry, no need to hurry, enough time is there.
THE OPEN SECRET, Osho
However love arrives at your door, it is always a brave path. It is like taking a long walk in a deep dark forest and never quite knowing where your soul will land. It is not for the faint of heart, nor is it ever to be taken lightly. Real love is heartcore. You have to be tenacious. You have to be innovative. You have to be willing to drop to your knees time and again before its wisdom. And you have to forge the tools you will need from your own imaginings, as very few who have walked the path before can describe the terrain. Most fell into quicksand soon after the romantic phase ended. Relationship is always a spiritual practice, even when we imagine it otherwise.
LOVE IT FORWARD, Jeff Brown
The breasts have the power to bring woman to the deepest of orgasmic experiences. The breasts are central to a woman's experience of sexual ecstasy, not merely an appendage for breast-feeding and without implication for the female energy system.
TANTRIC ORGASM FOR WOMEN, Diana Richardson
Orgasm sets in motion a cascade of programmed neurochemical events, which may continue for approximately two weeks. They change how we feel and how we perceive the world around us, especially a mate. They can speed habituation.
CUPID'S POISONED ARROW, Marnia Robinson
A visitor to my website wrote:
I think the force of habituation is the real killer of relationships. I recently watch an old video of my wife and me visiting my parents with our kids. I was utterly transfixed by wife-who looked gorgeously, awe inspiringly, achingly desirable!
The real gut wrenches was the impression I had that I (in the video) had got so used to being around this delightful creature that I was taking her utterly for granted. I was probably even spending a lot of time complaining to myself about various things she did or didn't do that weren't quite up to expectations. I mean, why wasn't I just loving her???!!! The realization that I am running the risk, right now, of failing to fully appreciate my wife hit me like a ton weight. I envisaged myself, aged eighty, looking back at videos of us today, showing me equally incapable of being intoxicated by my wife, but drooling at images of how she is now.
CUPIDS POISONED ARROW, Marnia Robinson
Everything having to do with human training and education has to be re-examined in light of neuroplasticity.
Norman Doidge
Seeds grow in the dark---so do we.
Let's stop making such a virtue out of the light
and turn toward what's in the shadows
and breathe it in, breathe it here
meeting it face-to-face
until we realize
with more than mind
that what we are seeing
is non other than us
in endarkened disguise
seeds grow in the dark--so do we.
Let's not be blinded by light
let's unwrap the night
building a faith too deep to be spoken
a recognition to central to be broken
until even the darkest of days
can light our way
Robert Augustus Masters
Deep sex does not promise happiness but begins with happiness.
TRANSFORMATION THROUGH INTIMACY: THE JOURNEY TOWARD AWAKENED MONOGAMY, Robert Augustus Masters Ph.D
However, if we pay conscious attention to ourselves and our partner in the midst of sexual engagement (beginning with the first signs of erotic interest and intensification)--which does not mean dissociating from our partner or from our own experience!--we have a chance to view the underpinnings of our suffering as well as our craving to escape from that suffering. We will then literally catch ourselves in the act, realizing that what we tend to do sexually is often no more than an exaggeration of what we tend to do when we are not being sexual.
TRANSFORMATION THROUGH INTIMACY: THE JOURNEY TOWARD AWAKENED MONOGAMY, Robert Augustus Masters Ph.D
Intimacy Anorexia is the active withholding of emotional, spiritual, and sexual intimacy from the spouse.
INTIMACY ANOREXIA: HEALING THE HIDDEN ADDICTION IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Douglas Weiss Ph.D
Addiction to internet pornography is a very real phenomenon with a very real impact on well-being. It is a phenomenon which has grown exponentially in the last decade, even though it has remained largely invisible and undetected by society. Tragically, its risks continue to be ignored or actively denied by all but a few enlightened medical professionals. It is a phenomenon that is not just here to stay, but also likely to increase. It is almost certainly the cause of the widespread sexual dysfunction found in recent studies of late adolescence. It is a problem that is most likely impacting you, or your loved ones, without you even being aware of it.
YOUR BRAIN ON PORN, Gary Wilson
The fiery intensity at the heart of anger asks neither for smothering nor mere discharge, but for a mindful embrace that does not require any dilution of passion, any lowering of the heat, nor any muting of the essential voice in the flames.
EMOTIONAL INTIMACY: A COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE FOR CONNECTION TO THE POWER OF YOUR EMOTIONS, Robert Augustus Masters Ph.D
No couple will ever thrive when the focus of either partner, whether overt or subtle, is simply to get their own needs met.
For the hope that you will be loved by someone else when you don't already deeply love yourself...only always ends in disappointment.
Bryan Reeves