I love sex. What could be more gratifying than connecting with my partner through lovemaking? Lovemaking means exactly how the word defined. We actually have the opportunity to generate more love. We do this by joining in a loving intimate union, not by using each other’s energy to regulate our emotional imbalances. We can commune with each other by exchanging loving energy while we remain grounded in our own bodies without losing ourselves to one another. Lovemaking energy i

I have believed this to be true for most of my life. Yes. Men do feel and I would say should feel loved and even worthy from a close connective experience with one another. But that doesn’t seem to be what is happening today. If men look to sex to make them feel loved and worthy then they’re putting a great burden on sex. Because of the weight that men are walking around with, we (men and women both) might want to take a closer look at this conditioned belief. In order to mak

We all have heard that love relationships should be rooted in friendship. In other words, if you can’t have a great lasting friendship with your beloved than it won’t last. I have been thinking a lot about the “friendships” that I have in my life. Because I suffered greatly from multiple traumas in my last relationship, this caused me to realize that to have healthy authentic relationships I need to take a closer look at how seriously I take friendship. I grew up during a tim

When I was a girl I asked my mom the story of how I was conceived. She told me. But I felt there was something missing. Her story eluded to the fact that I was conceived instantly. This didn’t make any sense to me. How could I be this complex and be created in just a few minutes? I asked her again and she told me the same thing. It really was that quick! If what she was saying is right…(and she always tells the truth) it took only a few minutes flat for my existence to be cre

While walking back to my car from the beach I noticed a car parked next to mine that needed a good cleaning with writing on its back windshield that said, ‘I wish my girlfriend was this dirty’. I’ve been thinking about the point view of the person that wrote the message. First, I felt sad for his girlfriend that she would feel that she needs to compete and live up to what he thinks is ‘dirty’ enough. The idea of sex being ‘naughty’/‘dirty’ starts when we are children and we b

Males feel defeated in sex, because when they engage in sex they ejaculate within minutes of beginning the sexual act. Many men see this problem and want to fix it, but usually don’t know how. Once they find out there is an alternative way to make love they are very interested in giving it a try. But, this proves difficult because when they attempt to make this change with their partner, she inevitably doesn’t understand or can’t trust it. She doesn’t trust him already in sex

I’ve seen and heard a lot of talk on facebook about women, especially during recent times, being shaming of men and boys. I watched a talk yesterday of a guy that is a mens relationship coach. What I took away from his rant was that women better be careful how they talk about men and boys. Also, that using the term toxic masculinity is shaming to them. The way that this hit me was particularly sad. I felt like wow, he doesn’t get it. Of course, its wonderful when we can, at l