What I hear women saying and also what I have experienced in relationship with men is that the primary block to connection is rage. I’ve noticed that because boys are taught that feelings are for girls and to be a man you essentially can’t have feelings. They have suppressed these feelings to the extent that their personality begins to take on their rage as part of who they believe themselves to be. Congealed rage is also a term that accurately describes this suppression and

Note: Our intent, here, is to investigate societal roles for the purpose of unifying intimate partners. As we continue to study the masculine, one word that has arisen to the top of our list is Protector. More and more we have seen the decline of this role in most men. The dictionary’s definition of Protector is a person that protects someone or something and a Predator is a person or group of people that ruthlessly exploits. Clearly, a protector keeps safe the vulnerable and

When I was a girl I asked my mom the story of how I was conceived. She told me. But I felt there was something missing. Her story eluded to the fact that I was conceived instantly. This didn’t make any sense to me. How could I be this complex and be created in just a few minutes? I asked her again and she told me the same thing. It really was that quick! If what she was saying is right…(and she always tells the truth) it took only a few minutes flat for my existence to be cre

While walking back to my car from the beach I noticed a car parked next to mine that needed a good cleaning with writing on its back windshield that said, ‘I wish my girlfriend was this dirty’. I’ve been thinking about the point view of the person that wrote the message. First, I felt sad for his girlfriend that she would feel that she needs to compete and live up to what he thinks is ‘dirty’ enough. The idea of sex being ‘naughty’/‘dirty’ starts when we are children and we b

Males feel defeated in sex, because when they engage in sex they ejaculate within minutes of beginning the sexual act. Many men see this problem and want to fix it, but usually don’t know how. Once they find out there is an alternative way to make love they are very interested in giving it a try. But, this proves difficult because when they attempt to make this change with their partner, she inevitably doesn’t understand or can’t trust it. She doesn’t trust him already in sex

I’ve seen and heard a lot of talk on facebook about women, especially during recent times, being shaming of men and boys. I watched a talk yesterday of a guy that is a mens relationship coach. What I took away from his rant was that women better be careful how they talk about men and boys. Also, that using the term toxic masculinity is shaming to them. The way that this hit me was particularly sad. I felt like wow, he doesn’t get it. Of course, its wonderful when we can, at l