Recently, I heard the term Full-Spectrum Sexuality from a video I watched online. As explained in the video, full-spectrum meant all forms of sexuality including ‘fucking’.
On its face this could sound like freedom. But, the sexual revolution did get a tad bit out of hand. ‘If it feels good do it’ wasn’t exactly what couples needed to sustain love. Once I began to examine it a bit further there were a few snags in this concept stemming from how we’re wired for sex.
Because ‘Fucking’ is constant thrusting, this misses the whole point of making love. Our bodies were made to compliment one another. But, the type of sex that all of us have been taught to engage in can’t authentically honor us. We miss the deliciousness of our body’s natural ability to self-realize touch when we are experiencing sex in this way.
We don’t have to be taught how to make love this way we are designed for it!
Man’s positive magnetic pole is his penis and he is constructed to compliment our receptive magnetic pole, the vagina. The more skilled he becomes at allowing his penis to be present and relax rather than worrying about erections, fantasizing to get erections, and working so hard the more he’ll begin to benefit from this connection.
As woman reminds herself to relax and allow and abandons the idea of trying to heat man up the more she too will benefit.
The rewards from relaxed love making are many. You no longer feel knocked out afterwards, instead you feel energized. Lubrication is no longer a problem. You will feel closer than ever before to your partner.
Plain and simple, the word ‘fucking’ comes from porn. We are not wired to fuck! Fucking causes woman’s cervix to shut down and the cells in the walls of the vagina get desensitized.
When man is desensitized it causes him to crave more sex and more often than not, turns to porn. Porn reinforces the conditioned sexual cycle of fast and hard sex.
Men have been raised to believe that sex is like what they see in porn. This gets expressed into the shared experience for couples. Most women aren’t aware that their partners are so deeply affected by porn use. The brain changes that occur from ongoing porn use gradually fixates the partner on objectification oriented sex rather than unifying sex.
Through this conditioning we have come to believe that orgasm is synonymous with sex and we don’t know any other way to make love. But, thankfully, there is another way. A gentle, connective way. We can make love rather fucking to “achieve” orgasm. Its not necessary! We’re off the hook!
‘Fucking’, as it turns out, isn’t all we have been programmed to believe it is!
This is the way of true Full-Spectrum Love Making. We can make love anytime and for as long as we want because we aren’t satiated from high-dopamine oriented sex.
We can stay in love with our partners continually! It is our free renewable energy that was here all along!
Now full-spectrum sex has a new goal to produce endless love. Orgasm is not a requirement to reach relaxation and love.
Through this way of making love men have the capability to tickle the top of the cervix, also called The Garden of Love, and to caress the walls of the vagina. Man will begin to feel his heart open and realize that he will be returning to this feeling again and again. A magnificent healing force! Women will receive their man in a whole new way which enables her to feel fully embodied and whole.
Be forewarned this love making is so powerful at awakening the heart, body and spirit it can be quite shocking at first. I have experienced how powerful this is. But without this adjustment it isn’t possible to heal our loneliness, rejection and desperation.
There are many more aspects to this topic that I’ll cover in future blogs. For now……we can revolutionize sex from ramped up conditioned desire to love filled bliss that grows and goes on and on.
Making love this way is simple, our bodies know what to do if only we would let them.