I love sex. What could be more gratifying than connecting with my partner through lovemaking? Lovemaking means exactly how the word defined. We actually have the opportunity to generate more love. We do this by joining in a loving intimate union, not by using each other’s energy to regulate our emotional imbalances. We can commune with each other by exchanging loving energy while we remain grounded in our own bodies without losing ourselves to one another. Lovemaking energy i

The pressure on us to be fine all the time is unrelenting. If we don’t find a way, in every way, to be fine then all hell might break loose. This is the message that we get from our culture: to be good at everything all the time. Its just easier to be fine and respond to all situations like everything is fine. But is it? And what exactly do we mean by ‘fine’? Fine can be a response of resignation, meaning ‘don’t worry about me' ‘get the attention off of me’, ‘I can handle all

In recent years, neuroscientists have found that skin-to-skin contact has many essential benefits for leading happy lives. So pertinent is it to our overall wellbeing that without it we can feel run down, depressed, and disconnected in our body and our relationships. Loving someone isn’t enough, we also need to know how to do that. I grew up believing that everything should just come naturally. That love was the one thing that we didn’t need to learn how to do because well…I

I’d like to start off by acknowledging the definition of ravished which comes from the Latin word rapere: to seize and carry off by force. to fill with strong emotion, especially joy. and to rape a woman. These definitions lead me to reason if the concept of ravishing came straight from the Archetype of Woman as Whore. Many believe this archetype has only existed since patriarchy began and probably played a huge role in the erection of it. That’s not to say that there were no

What I hear women saying and also what I have experienced in relationship with men is that the primary block to connection is rage. I’ve noticed that because boys are taught that feelings are for girls and to be a man you essentially can’t have feelings. They have suppressed these feelings to the extent that their personality begins to take on their rage as part of who they believe themselves to be. Congealed rage is also a term that accurately describes this suppression and

The verdict is in that they do just not the sort that has been on offer up to this point. Time and again women are feeling ‘if this is the way sex is going to be I don’t want anything to do with it.’ Since an alternative is relatively unknown women shut down to sex. This is the ongoing narrative for women all over the world today. Usually, when couples first partner up sex is exciting and stimulating. When we fall in love with one another we aren’t thinking about what our sex

It is of the utmost importance to assess if your partner has a sex addiction so that he can get the attention and care he needs before embarking on a journey of deepening your intimacy. If your partner has sex addiction and it isn’t addressed before starting to expand and deepen your intimacy then the road blocks you are going to encounter up ahead will likely be blamed on you and/or the intimacy. Without recovery first, the necessary trust and safety cannot be established to

I have believed this to be true for most of my life. Yes. Men do feel and I would say should feel loved and even worthy from a close connective experience with one another. But that doesn’t seem to be what is happening today. If men look to sex to make them feel loved and worthy then they’re putting a great burden on sex. Because of the weight that men are walking around with, we (men and women both) might want to take a closer look at this conditioned belief. In order to mak

Recently, I heard the term Full-Spectrum Sexuality from a video I watched online. As explained in the video, full-spectrum meant all forms of sexuality including ‘fucking’. On its face this could sound like freedom. But, the sexual revolution did get a tad bit out of hand. ‘If it feels good do it’ wasn’t exactly what couples needed to sustain love. Once I began to examine it a bit further there were a few snags in this concept stemming from how we’re wired for sex. Because ‘F