The pressure on us to be fine all the time is unrelenting. If we don’t find a way, in every way, to be fine then all hell might break loose. This is the message that we get from our culture: to be good at everything all the time. Its just easier to be fine and respond to all situations like everything is fine. But is it? And what exactly do we mean by ‘fine’? Fine can be a response of resignation, meaning ‘don’t worry about me' ‘get the attention off of me’, ‘I can handle all

In recent years, neuroscientists have found that skin to skin contact has many essential benefits for leading happy lives. So pertinent is it to our overall wellbeing that without it we can feel run down, depressed and disconnected in our body and in our relationship. Loving someone isn’t enough, we also need to know how to do that. I grew up believing that everything should just come naturally. That love was the one thing that we didn’t need to learn how to do because well…I

I’d like to start off by acknowledging the definition of ravished which comes from the Latin word rapere: to seize and carry off by force. to fill with strong emotion, especially joy. and to rape a woman. These definitions lead me to reason if the concept of ravishing came straight from the Archetype of Woman as Whore. Many believe this archetype has only existed since patriarchy began and probably played a huge role in the erection of it. That’s not to say that there were no

What I hear women saying and also what I have experienced in relationship with men is that the primary block to connection is rage. I’ve noticed that because boys are taught that feelings are for girls and to be a man you essentially can’t have feelings. They have suppressed these feelings to the extent that their personality begins to take on their rage as part of who they believe themselves to be. Congealed rage is also a term that accurately describes this suppression and

It is of the utmost importance to assess if your partner has a sex addiction so that he can get the attention and care he needs before embarking on a journey of deepening your intimacy. If your partner has sex addiction and it isn’t addressed before starting to expand and deepen your intimacy then the road blocks you are going to encounter up ahead will likely be blamed on you and/or the intimacy. Without recovery first, the necessary trust and safety cannot be established to

I can see why you may feel like this. You may have an underlying feeling or an intermittent thought pattern saying something like, who is this guy? When I didn’t know that my husband was addicted I often felt so confused about our marriage and where I stood in our relationship that I wondered so many things like this. When sex addiction is present, in its many forms, you can feel like you don’t know the person standing in front of you. The guy that you were talking to the day