The textbook human Sexual Response Cycle that was modeled by Masters and Johnson, back in 1966, has been the model conditioned into all of us as fact. It appears in everything in our culture from porn, public and private school curriculums, and medical sciences. Before Masters and Johnson perfected them, Kinsey made his mark by producing the first porn films showing first hand how the cycle worked. The generations following have taken this model as the gospel. We have been re

In recent years, neuroscientists have found that skin to skin contact has many essential benefits for leading happy lives. So pertinent is it to our overall wellbeing that without it we can feel run down, depressed and disconnected in our body and in our relationship. Loving someone isn’t enough, we also need to know how to do that. I grew up believing that everything should just come naturally. That love was the one thing that we didn’t need to learn how to do because well…I

I’d like to start off by acknowledging the definition of ravished which comes from the Latin word rapere: to seize and carry off by force. to fill with strong emotion, especially joy. and to rape a woman. These definitions lead me to reason if the concept of ravishing came straight from the Archetype of Woman as Whore. Many believe this archetype has only existed since patriarchy began and probably played a huge role in the erection of it. That’s not to say that there were no

What I hear women saying and also what I have experienced in relationship with men is that the primary block to connection is rage. I’ve noticed that because boys are taught that feelings are for girls and to be a man you essentially can’t have feelings. They have suppressed these feelings to the extent that their personality begins to take on their rage as part of who they believe themselves to be. Congealed rage is also a term that accurately describes this suppression and

It is of the utmost importance to assess if your partner has a sex addiction so that he can get the attention and care he needs before embarking on a journey of deepening your intimacy. If your partner has sex addiction and it isn’t addressed before starting to expand and deepen your intimacy then the road blocks you are going to encounter up ahead will likely be blamed on you and/or the intimacy. Without recovery first, the necessary trust and safety cannot be established to

Today, men are facing choices in relationship that they have never had to before in past generations. Women want presence, engagement, and curiosity from their partners in relationship. This newfound awareness is gaining steam. Men are at a real crossroads to ‘clean up their act’ or leave the relationship. By clean up their act, I mean that they are being required to decide to choose their partners each day or let them go. For men, telling their partners that they love them e